Every time I see a very pregnant woman – and there were a lot of them today – I want to strike up a conversation. I want to be friendly, kind, curious and then I want to tell them my baby died. I want them to know how lucky they are. I want them to know they shouldn’t ever take it for granted.
I want them to share a piece of my pain and then thank their lucky stars it’s not them. At least not yet.
After all, anyone can join the dead baby club.
Of course I don’t do this. But, oh, how I want to.
I feel the same way sometimes. Best to let them be nieve I guess, right? =)
Jessica M. says
I want to do that when random people on facebook announce they are pregnant and 4 weeks along. I want to scream “Do you know how naive you are!” Sure they probably will be fine and may never become part of Dead Baby Land but you never know… It makes me even more upset that some of these people know what I have been through and still they announce it to all of facebook like they are immune! Worse then that are those that didn’t “want” to be pregnant – those that think they have “enough” children. Or the drug addicts – the people that just don’t care…. that really kills me. Some people don’t even have to try to have a baby and then there’s all of us who would give anything to have a child! It’s so disheartening! (((hugs))) I know how you feel! <3
Oh me too! Especially those who are complaining or unhappy or who (in my opinion, which is pretty worthless to them) don’t appear to be OVER the moon estatic and LOVING being pregnant!! But I don’t either!!