October 15 is National Infant and Pregnancy Loss Awareness Day. Most people don’t know that, even if they’ve lost a baby. It gets overshadowed. No one wants to talk about dead babies. No one except the people who love them, and maybe the people who love those people.
Last year I made Steve and myself t-shirts with Ben’s name on them. This year I will light a candle and spend some time quietly, in remembrance. Though every day is a remembrance. How I live now is a remembrance. Perhaps one day I’ll start a version of Walk to Remember here – a way for our community to find itself. There are many of us, even in this small city. The baby lost.
For now though, I’m going to direct you to Kate Inglis’ Sweet/Salty and the speech she gave at her fourth Walk to Remember. It’s beautiful. It’s for everyone. Please go read it.